Body Board Expert
DR. LYNDSEY HARPER
Getting your Sexual Groove Back and the Role of Fantasy
Gynecologist and OBGYN Dr. Harper discusses the challenges she sees for women who come to her with diminishing sex drives. Feeling frustrated that she was not equipped to give her patients what they needed, she started “Meet Rosy," a fem tech app where you can hear erotic stories geared toward women within a community of others who believe in erotic content to help with arousal. We discuss the challenges and the scientific facts of our sex drive and what turns us on!
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You’ve got questions, we’ve got answers.
HOW CAN I TALK TO MY PARTNER ABOUT WHAT I WANT IN THE BEDROOM
If it feels too uncomfortable to talk to your partner about your turn ons or turn offs, there are people who can help! Talking to a sex coach can help you (and your partner if you have one) get away from embarrassment, guilt or indifference so you can experience connection, pleasure and enthusiasm for sex and intimacy. Sex and sexuality are precious gifts, and should not feel shameful. Take steps to find your joy!
I FIND SEX UNCOMFORTABLE AND SOMETIMES PAINFUL. WHAT CAN I DO?
First, try lube, lots of it. Regardless of your age, gender of your partner, and preferred type of sexual activity, it can help things feel much better. If you are still experiencing pain, talk to your trusted health care provider. They should ask you about your medical and sexual history, including when you first experienced symptoms and what seems to trigger it. You can ask them why you are experiencing pain and what kind of treatments might work for you. They may need to do a pelvic exam to look for other health conditions that could be causing discomfort.
DO MOST WOMEN ORGASM DURING SEX?
It depends on who they’re having sex, what kind of sex, and a whole host of other factors. An estimated 10-15% of women have never had an orgasm, and during vaginal intercourse alone just 25% of women consistently reach climax, according to some estimates. Women are also less likely to experience an orgasm during a heterosexual encounter than men – this is commonly known as the orgasm gap.
IN WHAT WAY CAN USING A VIBRATOR ENHANCE YOUR SEXUAL EXPERIENCE?
Vibrators can be great as they can add extra stimulation to wherever feels good for you, whether it's the clitoris, in the vagina, or other erogenous zones.
LIGHTS ON OR OFF – HOW CAN I FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE WITH MY BODY DURING SEX?
It is sometimes difficult to be intimate with a partner when you don’t feel comfortable with showing off your body. There are many ways to help get out of your head during sex. Practice regular positive affirmations. Reminding yourself of your worth, power, inner and outer beauty can boost your confidence in all aspects of life including in the bedroom! Give meditation a try to practice staying present, and out of your head. At the end of the day, it is always important to practice open communication with your partner. This will help them understand your needs and build trust in your relationship.